As a parent there is always that feeling of insecurity that comes when you set your child off into the world. Will they get their feelings hurt? Will they survive that hurt? Will they have true friends or will bullies ruin their life? All the insecurities or experiences that we dealt with as children unfortunately rub over onto our own children. I feel I need to give my kids the pep talk on how to deal with bullies encouraging them that if needs be they can fight back and I will be there to support them in that decision. For most of my children, the thought of hurting another child is beyond their comfort zone. They will inevitably take the other routes of killing their enemies with kindness or telling an adult and receiving protection that way, long before they would ever lay hands on a peer. However, my teeny tiny Madison is much different.
It was her birthday in April, again I am behind...and like every year I point out something about that child that is unique but also that I love. And I strangely enough love this trait Madison possesses. Maybe it is because it is a trait I don't possess. She is a Scott...I often wonder if there is any Graham in her at all. She is a fireball and as most parents feel that one day they will be in a situation where they are dealing with a bully...I feel I will one day be in a situation where Madison is the bully.
Now why do I love this? Because I know Madison can defend herself. Madison will never intentionally be a bully, her bite comes as a defense. So when I say I will be dealing with her as a bully I know it will be a situation where I have to prove it was out of self-defense. She not only defends herself, but she is the first to defend her loved ones. One day Carson was a victim of a bully attack and before this kid could think Madison had pulled him off of Carson and pushed him to the ground. Ready for a rumble she stood over him with her hands in fists and this kid took off before he was sure to get his butt kicked. I have a love/hate feeling towards this story. I love it because the love she feels for her brother is not to be messed with, I hate it because I was expecting an immediate visit from this kids parents where I was going to have to defend my daughter. Now I am not one to put my fists up like Madison and I truly do hate contention however, I am one to defend my children. And there was certain to be a shouting fest and there is no doubt I would have won for being the loudest and most emotional. And I hate when I get like that.
Another reason why I love this about Madison is she is the threat to bullies. Let me explain, there was a kid at the bus stop that was playing with Madison. He was a younger kid and he was on her back. He fell off and got hurt. He blamed Madison for this fall and retaliated by trying to beat her up. Pulling her hair, kicking her...as he came around for another grab she elbowed him from behind and down he went. Don't mess...were words I am sure she mumbled as she stepped over him and got on the bus. Now this kid is a wild hair often letting loose and I loved that Madison put and end to it. I don't have to worry about Madison.
I am certain I am one of those moms that probably doesn't hold Madison as accountable as I should but seriously it is refreshing to finally be in a position where I don't have to coach my child through a bullying situation.
I also have to mention that she puts this energy into everything she does. She is competitive, driven and unstoppable. Hmmm, who does this sound like? If we can hone these skills correctly she will be an amazing adult. Much like someone else I know!(her daddy)
Madison I am proud of the little person that you are and I am proud of the way you conduct yourself in situations where you have to stick up for yourself or those you care for. Happy Birthday my sweet 10 year old. I still get stuck spilling that one out. I can't believe you are 10. I stumble with every year you turn older. Nonetheless, I love my 10 year old Maddie.
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